Toxic Positivity

Losing a loved one is an incredibly painful experience, and yet, society often pushes us to stay “positive” or “look on the bright side.”
This is known as toxic positivity, and it can be deeply harmful.
Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset.

While staying optimistic has its place, it can invalidate genuine feelings of sadness and grief.
Phrases like “They’re in a better place” or “Everything happens for a reason” Or Telling someone to “focus on the happy memories” right after a loss, when they may need to process their immediate pain.
Or Advising someone to “be strong” instead of allowing them to express their vulnerability and sadness.
can make people feel like their grief isn’t valid.
When people feel their emotions aren’t understood or accepted, they may withdraw and grieve alone.

There are ways to Offer True Support and compassion including;
Listen: Sometimes, the best thing you can do is just be there and listen without offering advice or platitudes.
Acknowledge Feelings: It’s okay to say, “I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here for you.”
Offer Practical Help: Simple acts like bringing a meal, running errands, or just sitting quietly can mean the world.

People grieving don't need to think more positive. They don't need to adjust their attitude or see things with a better perspective. They need to grieve in whatever way they need to.